Okay...what I don't understand is why people force compliments about themselves out of other people. Don't say you don't do it, everyone does. I do it, you do it, your neighbor does it, your gym teacher does it...everyone. I just don't know why. When we want compliments about something that we're wearing or something we've done, then we insult it as a way to get people to say nice things. We know they are just saying to make us feel better, so why do all of these fake compliments make us feel better? If you don't understand what I'm talking about..here's an example:
"Did you write the short story for English?"
"Yea...but it's horrible."
"Oh, I'm sure it's good."
"No...it's really bad...I hate it."
"No, it's good."
"Thanks...but I still don't like it."
We tend to do things like this even if we don't 'hate it'. So I'm trying to figure out why. I would think that real compliments that people wanted to say on there own would make us feel better....even if they are few and far between. More so than fake compliments that several people give you because you practically forces them to. Oh.. and one of my favorite conversations to here is when two people are both trying to get compliments out of the other so neither of them are getting what they want because each one is only focused on themselves:
"My short story is horrible..."
"So is mine...it's awful."
"No...like, mine is terrible. I want to burn it."
"Yea me too, if anyone reads it I might die of embarrassment."
Crazy right? But we all do it! At least I know I do...and everyone I know does it. I guess we just crave compliments. Maybe I should do a study on it for my psychology class....?
"Did you write the short story for English?"
"Yea...but it's horrible."
"Oh, I'm sure it's good."
"No...it's really bad...I hate it."
"No, it's good."
"Thanks...but I still don't like it."
We tend to do things like this even if we don't 'hate it'. So I'm trying to figure out why. I would think that real compliments that people wanted to say on there own would make us feel better....even if they are few and far between. More so than fake compliments that several people give you because you practically forces them to. Oh.. and one of my favorite conversations to here is when two people are both trying to get compliments out of the other so neither of them are getting what they want because each one is only focused on themselves:
"My short story is horrible..."
"So is mine...it's awful."
"No...like, mine is terrible. I want to burn it."
"Yea me too, if anyone reads it I might die of embarrassment."
Crazy right? But we all do it! At least I know I do...and everyone I know does it. I guess we just crave compliments. Maybe I should do a study on it for my psychology class....?
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